Trust
Deeply Simple Shifts
The ground you stand on together.
Our stance on Trust is simple— though not always easy.
Trust isn't something on demand.
It's something you build— quietly, consistent, and together.
It's not blind faith or constant reassurance.
It’s the felt sense that you are safe with each other.
Safe to be honest. Safe to be imperfect. Safe to repair when you miss.
Trust is built in the smallest moments—the ones most people overlook.
The follow-through. The honesty that comes a little sooner.
The choice to stay open instead of shutting down.
This is the ground you stand on together.
Not perfection. Not certainty.
But a shared commitment to showing up, telling the truth,
and choosing each other again and again.
DEEPLY SIMPLE SHIFTS
From Suspicion to Curiosity
WHEN THIS HAPPENS:
You notice something small—and your mind starts filling in the blanks
PAUSE:
Catch the story forming and name it: “I’m starting to make this mean something”
INSTEAD OF:
Letting the story run ahead of reality
ASK YOURSELF:
Do I want to be right about this—or understand what’s actually true?
TRY THIS:
“Hey, can I check something instead of assuming?”
WHAT BECOMES POSSIBLE:
Clarity instead of quiet disconnection
Want to go deeper?
Read the full piece here.
DEEPLY SIMPLE SHIFTS
From Seeking Reassurance to Self-Trust
WHEN THIS HAPPENS:
You feel the urge to ask again: “Are we okay?”
PAUSE:
Ground yourself before reaching outward
INSTEAD OF:
Letting the story run ahead of reality
ASK YOURSELF:
What part of me needs support right now?
TRY THIS:
“I’m feeling a little off—I just need a little bit of time to
ground myself”
WHAT BECOMES POSSIBLE:
Grounded connection instead of dependency
Want to go deeper?
Read the full piece here.
DEEPLY SIMPLE SHIFTS
From Silence to Story-Making
WHEN THIS HAPPENS:
They go quiet, distant, or distracted,
and it starts to feel personal
PAUSE:
Notice what you’re making it mean
INSTEAD OF:
Deciding what their silence means
ASK YOURSELF:
What am I assuming right now?
TRY THIS:
“I noticed I felt a little disconnected just now—are we okay?”
WHAT BECOMES POSSIBLE:
Reconnection instead of internal spiraling
Want to go deeper?
Read the full piece here.
DEEPLY SIMPLE SHIFTS
From Control to Allowing
WHEN THIS HAPPENS:
You feel the urge to check, monitor, or “just make sure”
PAUSE:
Sit with the discomfort of not knowing—without acting on it
INSTEAD OF:
Trying to reduce anxiety through control
ASK YOURSELF:
Is this building trust—or managing fear?
TRY THIS:
“I’m working on trusting more, even when it’s uncomfortable.
Please bear with me."
WHAT BECOMES POSSIBLE:
Freedom instead of quiet tension
Want to go deeper?
Read the full piece here.
DEEPLY SIMPLE SHIFTS
From Guarded to Open
WHEN THIS HAPPENS:
You feel something vulnerable—but want to hold it back
PAUSE:
Stay with the sensation instead of shutting it down
INSTEAD OF:
Protecting yourself by saying nothing
ASK YOURSELF:
What would it look like to share just 2% more?
TRY THIS:
“This feels a little vulnerable to say, but it matters to me…
I want to let you in.”
WHAT BECOMES POSSIBLE:
Intimacy instead of distance
Want to go deeper?
Read the full piece here.
DEEPLY SIMPLE SHIFTS
From Assumption to Good Intent
WHEN THIS HAPPENS:
Something they did lands wrong
PAUSE:
Separate what happened from what you’re making it mean
INSTEAD OF:
Assigning intention to their behavior
ASK YOURSELF:
What if this wasn’t meant the way it landed?
TRY THIS:
“Can you walk me through what was going on for you?”
WHAT BECOMES POSSIBLE:
Understanding instead of blame
Want to go deeper?
Read the full piece here.
DEEPLY SIMPLE SHIFTS
From Jealousy to Honesty
WHEN THIS HAPPENS:
You feel a wave of insecurity or comparison
PAUSE:
Name the feeling without judging it or acting on it
INSTEAD OF:
Masking it with control, withdrawal, or criticism
ASK YOURSELF:
What is this feeling actually asking for?
TRY THIS:
“I’m noticing some insecurity coming up—I don’t want to hide it”
WHAT BECOMES POSSIBLE:
Connection instead of defensiveness
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DEEPLY SIMPLE SHIFTS
From Doubt to Rebuilding
WHEN THIS HAPPENS:
Something small feels off triggers an old fear
PAUSE:
Notice the past entering the present: “This feels familiar,
not just current”
INSTEAD OF:
Letting history define now
ASK YOURSELF:
Is this about now—or something from before?
TRY THIS:
“I think something old got activated for me just now”
WHAT BECOMES POSSIBLE:
Trust built in the present instead of
shaped by the past
Want to go deeper?
Read the full piece here.
DEEPLY SIMPLE SHIFTS
From Resentment to Reset
WHEN THIS HAPPENS:
You feel yourself tracking patterns, mistakes,
or “what they always do”
PAUSE:
Catch the mental list forming and soften your grip on it
INSTEAD OF:
Stacking evidence to protect yourself
ASK YOURSELF:
Is this helping me feel safe—or keeping me guarded?
TRY THIS:
“I don’t want to keep holding this against you—I want to reset”
WHAT BECOMES POSSIBLE:
Fresh connection instead of accumulated distance
Want to go deeper?
Read the full piece here.