Today is going to be a good day

September 16, 2022

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It is funny how the mind works. Somedays you wake up ready to tackle the world and other days, your mind tells you that you should just stay in bed and let life happen without you. Since my journey began, I have had many days where I feel like I am never going to get this, feeling as if the mountain is insurmountable.

Each day, I get up, set an intention for the day and work to be better than the day before. At first, this was really hard because all I could do was think about the times that I previously came up short. I was stuck seeing my mistakes as failures. Now I see them as growth opportunities. Areas that needed attention, understanding, work and perspective. I am climbing that mountain, I can see the peak, and the best part is... I know what awaits me at the top. It is a life of abundance, joy, happiness, love, trust, gratitude, confidence, appreciation and awareness.

This morning I woke up with the realization I posted about earlier, support. When I first thought about it, I thought how badly I failed to support my partner in many senses of the word. It brought me down to think that I did not offer her the same support that she always offered me and that I was too stuck in my ways to even see that she was leading by example.

Then as I was writing the blog, I felt something happen inside of me. I felt a beautiful energy wash over me and guide me. It was telling me, yes… you did not show up in the best way all the time. Sometimes you did but not all the time, you lacked consistency. See these as lessons to learn from. Grow from them and soon you will be consistently showing up in the way that you always intended. This message came to me when I was really needing it the most.

See, it is easy to get down on yourself when all you do is look at your past actions as failures. It prevents you from seeing all the good and doesn’t allow you to see them as growth opportunities.

I am a good man. Sure, I have areas that need improvement if I want to show up consistently, in a healthy way, supportive and honoring myself and my partner. So, instead of getting down on what I wasn’t able to do in the past, I look at how far I have come, the progress I have made, and the commitment I have made to myself and my growth. All of these amazing accomplishments are transforming me into someone that can show up for those he cares for, support them, love them and be present with them.

Reframing your perspective from all the negative to all the positive, encourages growth, recognizes progress, fuels desire to continue, and allows us to be grateful for the opportunity to become better.

No longer do I see my past as a conglomeration of failures.

I see my past as a life of ignorance to a better way of being. I see that the way I was showing up didn’t serve me, it didn’t support a healthy relationship, and it certainly didn’t inspire confidence, trust or a sense of support. The best part about reframing it, is that it can be seen as a learning opportunity. I know what life was like when I was the old version of myself. Now I climb that, once insurmountable, mountain with confidence, courage, inner-strength and determination. Every day I make it further and further, and every day I look back at the version of myself that I am leaving behind. Life ahead looks pretty good; I can’t wait to see what challenges I can overcome and lessons I can learn tomorrow.