Learning to validate your partner and giving them what they need in the relationship.

August 28, 2023 It's been a long time since I've spent some time on myself and written in this blog. It is definitely time to get back to my writing. Lately, we have been struggling to remain in a good space, to live life in joy, happiness and love. It feels like we spend a good amount of time where everything feels incredible and where nothing could come into our space. Then all of the sudden, whoop... there it is. Lately it feels like when something comes up, we completely

November 21, 2022 It has been quite a month. I have experienced growth, progress, setbacks and breakthroughs in ways that I never imagined. It has been pointed out to me that I am not the same person as the one who wrote the blog posts before, that I am not showing up in the way that I said I would, and that I am not following through on being who I said I had become. All of these statements have been extremely difficult to hear because I felt that I had it all under control.

October 19, 2022 Getting through an upset starts with you . It doesn’t matter what the upset is, what it begins with or what it has turned into, it starts with you. Something small and ridiculous will turn into something big when we don’t take a second to check-in with ourselves, taking inventory of where we are at when the upset (or better before the upset) occurs. Being busy in our lives, preoccupied, working, playing, whatever it may be, is not more important than checking

Surrender to the process and to the present moment. Let go of that which does not serve you and trust in that which does.

It's been awhile since I've posted, as I have been enjoying my life in a whole new way. I have been working really hard for the past couple months to improve myself, to be a better person and to be able to show up in a way that I never had been able to before. While doing this inner work, I realize that I haven't slowed down or stopped to appreciate all the progress that I've made and celebrate my accomplishments. Now, Paola is back in my life and our future together looks br

September 30, 2022 In writing the last post ( Crazy Dream ), I thought a lot about why I was a woman in the dream. I am not sure if this is it, but I figured that I would throw it out there anyway. My partner, Paola, is also working on herself. She has identified as a mom for the majority of her life and is working on detaching from that identity to live her life as a strong, driven and inter-dependent woman. She has been going through some tough times in accomplishing this g

September 30, 2022 Last night I dreamt I was an astronaut. It was such a vivid and meaningful dream that I woke up and immediately journaled about it so I wouldn’t forget anything. In the dream I was female (not sure why). After being in space for some time, it was time to come back to Earth. This was going to be a new kind of re-entry, one that no one had ever done before. The ship we took to space was supposed to be left as part of the space station. So, the re-entry was go

September 27, 2022 So much has happened and I have been thinking about how to discuss it all on the blog. On the 16th of September I received a message from my partner. I was terrified to open it. I imagined that all the horrible things that I had imagined were waiting for me to read in that single unopened message. I saw the notification and threw my phone down, my heart began to race, I became extremely anxious and feared what she had to say. After being in the dark for so

Today's therapy session was completely different than all others. Recent events have shown me where I still have some work to do, as well allowed me to witness and appreciate the areas that I have been making progress. This last weekend was incredible... Worthy of a post all of its own, so keep an eye out for that. 😉 (Here you can find out about how that week began) In short, I was presented with an opportunity to practice all that I have been learning. In doing this, I real

September 19, 2022 In this journey that I have been on, I feel I have made amazing progress and learn so much. I feel better, I respond better, I have the ability to show up in ways I never did before, And I can sense the progress. However, it is always very easy to fall back into a pattern of familiarity. Simple to go back and handle things in the same way that I used to, and that is not the person that I desire to be. I have the most amazing weekend of my entire life. I sho

September 16, 2022 I just want to put out a quick post about doing your inner-work and the rewards of that work, as well as talk a bit about freedom and choice. I have been solely focused on my journey for around a month now and I feel like a completely different man. The energy that I put off is positive and powerful, my confidence is at an all-time high, I have a sense of self-worth, and self-esteem. Knowing that I have done work to obtain knowledge and skills that I previo

September 16, 2022 Just got back from downtown, had an amazing time by myself. I'm finally drying out, but I'm a bit wired and can't sleep. So I wanted to do a short entry to discuss what I'm experiencing as a result of the last hypnotherapy session because I feel the information is important. As each day passes I see an incredible change in how I am being in the world. I find myself wanting to do one thing, then thinking about how the secure, confident, and self-assured ver

September 16, 2022 It is funny how the mind works. Somedays you wake up ready to tackle the world and other days, your mind tells you that you should just stay in bed and let life happen without you. Since my journey began, I have had many days where I feel like I am never going to get this, feeling as if the mountain is insurmountable. Each day, I get up, set an intention for the day and work to be better than the day before. At first, this was really hard because all I coul

September 15, 2022 Recently I was doing some research and came across a great article pertaining to personal traits in regard to vibrational levels. Before I started looking into all of this, I had no idea what the hell a person's vibration even meant. Signs of someone with high vibration include the following: Animals feel safe in your presence, they are magnetic for other people, people will stare at them in public, random people will come talk to them and tell them their l

September 14, 2022 I just wanted to take a moment to say thank you to everyone that sent me words of encouragement and positivity. I turned off my phone last night before bed and when I woke up this morning and turned on my phone, I couldn't believe the messages I had in my chat inbox. To be honest, I had no idea so many people were actually reading this. Quick answers to the most common questions: No, I won't post any pictures of myself and definitely not my partner. I can't

September 14, 2022 Last night I had the most incredible realization, I feel compelled to share. I got back to the house after I took some time for myself last night, driving around, getting grounded, and relaxing. I arrived pretty late, so I anticipated everyone would be in bed. My mom was up and greated me with obvious tension. I didnt understand why, but I wasn't ready to engage. I went to get a water and a salad, when I finished, I went in and washed the dishes. As I was g

You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start from where you are and change the ending

September 13, 2022 As I was getting my day going, I realized that I have been a bit sadder but couldn't really understand the source of the emotion. Spending some time looking inward to understand this feeling, I saw all the great things pertaining to my growth and healing. I felt an overwhelming sense of pride that was not there before. Just recognizing that I was not allowing the feeling of sadness to control me, but instead searching for the reason, understanding it, and a

September 12, 2022 All the work that I have been doing has been incredibly enlightening and I truly feel like a completely different person than I was. I find myself actively processing thoughts, fears, emotions and triggers. This has been something that I have been really focusing on. Triggers will happen and they produce a feeling, that is an undeniable fact and part of our subconscious. My old way of handling that was going straight to reaction, however, now I am aware and